Dildo Buying Guide: Everything You Need to Know Before You Take Action

I'll be honest: I was one of those people who thought buying a dildo was a piece of cake. A fun thing, a click, and hey presto, deal done. Until one day, after a minor argument with my partner and a sudden urge to liven things up, I ventured onto a men's sex toy site. The idea? Surprise my wife, or at least try something new.

And then, an existential shock. Before me: hundreds of models, names that sometimes evoke science fiction, sometimes erotic haute couture. Size, shape, texture, vibration or not, suction cup or harness… I felt like I was writing a master's thesis in applied godology.

Then I discovered something reassuring: I wasn't alone. Quite the opposite. According to a study by IFOP , more than one in two men (50%) in France have already used a sex toy at least once in their life - almost as many as women (52%). And guess what? In 2020, the blessed year of lockdown and endless Netflix evenings, 3 in 10 French people (30%) took the plunge. Suffice to say, the dildo is no longer taboo... it's almost a life companion.

So, whether for your solo pleasure or to spice up your games for two, this guide is here to avoid unpleasant surprises and accompany you - seriously, but always with a touch of very French lightness - in the not-so-obscure world of the ideal dildo.

The different types of dildos

There's a dildo for every mood, every body, and every naughty scenario. Here's a quick guide to help you navigate the jungle of pleasure:

• The classic dildo

  Minimalist yet incredibly efficient. With no motor, this model focuses on manual control and simplicity. Perfect for beginners.

• The vibrating dildo

  With multiple speeds and pulsations, it stimulates intensely.

  👉 Special mention: the back-and-forth dildo , which replicates an automatic penetration movement. Yes, yes… it does the work while you relax.

• The realistic dildo

  Here, everything is in the detail: veins, glans, testicles and skin texture... Very close to the human body.

• The suction cup dildo

  Thanks to its adhesive base, it attaches to any smooth surface (shower wall, floor, mirror, etc.) for hands-free moments. A must-have for trying out new positions.

• The Creature Dildo

  Want to step outside the box? Dive into the world of fantasy dildos: tentacles, unique textures, crazy sizes... A definite delirium, for extraordinary sensations.

And let's not forget...

• Anal dildo? Almost any of the models listed can be used for anal penetration—as long as they have a wider base for safety. Always use a good lubricant and go slowly.
• XXL dildo ? Yes, there are "king size" models for lovers of extreme sensations. It's not for everyone, but it's a very special category that makes some people happy.

There is no such thing as a universally "good" dildo, but there is the right dildo for you , depending on your desires, your body, your fantasies - and sometimes your mood of the day. Try it, explore, have fun (healthily), and if you need a helping hand... our xeoxhoney selection is here to guide you. 💛

Materials: it changes everything!

The perfect dildo isn't just about shape or size... The material is super important too! It affects feel, safety, and even maintenance. We'll show you visually in a table:

In short:

• Whether you're just starting out or playing often, silicone is the safe bet.
• To vary the pleasures: try glass or metal .
• For smaller budgets or more “soft” sensations: why not jelly , but always with caution!

And above all: treat yourself safely . At XeoxHoney , we only offer materials that we would use ourselves. Because pleasure starts with trust!

Safety & hygiene: pleasure, yes… but not just any old way!

A good time starts with good habits! To ensure your sex toy lasts a long time (and stays safe), here are some simple habits to adopt:

• Wash, rinse, pamper

  Before and after each use, a quick rinse with warm water and a mild soap or a special sex toy cleaner, and it's clean! Avoid harsh products, and let it air dry quietly.

• Lubricant = your best ally ✨

  To avoid unpleasant friction, always use lubricant. And be careful:

  ➤ With a silicone dildo, use water-based lubricant only! Otherwise, you risk damaging the surface.

  ➤ Good news: Water-based lubricants work with all materials and offer a smooth glide. (It's like butter for your sensations.)

• We don't share everything! (With a condom )

  Want to lend your toy to a partner? OK, but always with a condom on it. And above all, change it if you change your use (e.g.: after the anus, don't go back to the vagina with the same cap!).

  Yes, even between lovers, a little caution doesn't hurt.

• A damaged toy = retired

  If it gets sticky, cracks, or changes texture, say goodbye. A quality silicone sex toy (like XeoxHoney) can last for years if properly cared for. But better safe than sorry.

• Vibrant and rechargeable? Not just anywhere.

  Does your dildo vibrate and recharge? Great! But be sure to read the instructions carefully. Even if it's waterproof, don't recharge it in the shower or place it on a wet sink. Keep it dry while charging; it'll repay you.

• What if it stings? We stop! 🚫

  Redness, irritation, or a strange sensation? Stop everything. While most medical-grade silicone models are safe, your body always has the final say. It's best to take a break and consult a doctor if necessary.

A well-maintained dildo guarantees moments of pleasure without unpleasant surprises. Take loving care of it: a little water, mild soap, and the right lubricant... and it will always be ready to please you, again and again.

Size & shape: each to their own style

When choosing a dildo, size matters (yes!), but that's not all. You also need to think about diameter , shape , and even weight . Don't panic: we'll help you see things more clearly.

No need to aim for XXL from the start: start with a comfortable size and listen to your body.

Consider length, diameter, and weight. At XeoxHoney, everything is clearly indicated in cm and inches—no nasty surprises!

Size	For whom?	Penetrable length	Diameter	Sensations and use	Recommended XeoxHoney model - See product
Small (beginner)	Beginners, lovers of gentleness	12-14 cm	2.5-3 cm	Easy to insert, ideal for getting used to the sensations. Less pressure, more comfort.
Medium (versatile)	Regular users, looking for balance	15-17 cm	3.2-4 cm	Marked stimulation but still comfortable. The best of both worlds.
Big (strong sensation)	Experienced, lovers of the “full”	18-20 cm	4.2-5 cm	Intense filling, requires lubricant. Reserved for the most daring.
XXL (expert only)	Hardcore, anal or deep play experts	21 cm and over	5 cm and more	Extreme sensations, often for anal play or XXL fantasies. Handle with respect!
Special point G / P	Seeking targeted pleasure (vaginal or prostate)	13-17 cm	2.8-3.8 cm (curved)	Ergonomically curved shape to directly touch internal erogenous zones.

In short, adapt the size to your experience and intended use: a small size for beginners or for anal use, and a medium/large size for more sensation or a realistic effect. The important thing is not to force yourself to take a size larger than you can comfortably tolerate.

Functions: more than just a piece of silicone

Today, a dildo is no longer just a simple penetration tool. Thanks to technology (and a little magic), it can offer a surprising range of sensations . Here are the most popular options:

• Multi-mode vibrations

  The classic: several speeds, pulsations and rhythms to vary the sensations, like a tasting menu for your erogenous zones.

• Automatic rotation or back and forth

  Some models rotate or move on their own to replicate rhythmic, effortless penetration. The toy does (almost) all the work!

• Remote control (remote control or app)

  Ideal for couples or at a distance: you (or your partner) control the pleasure via Bluetooth or remote control, even from miles away.

• Total waterproofing

  Perfect in the shower or bath, these waterproof models are as easy to clean as they are to tame.

• Heating function

  Some dildos slowly heat up to mimic body heat - a natural and very cozy effect.

• Other options

  Original textures, silent vibrations or small light effects: it's up to you to see what makes you vibrate.

👉 The little extra that changes everything? It's not necessarily the raw power, but the variety of sensations . Test, explore, find what makes you vibrate (literally and figuratively).

How to Use a Dildo Properly? Step-by-Step Instructions

🔹 Clean first

Rinse the dildo in warm water with a mild soap or sex toy cleaner. Dry it thoroughly.

🔹 Lubricate generously

Apply a water-based lubricant to the toy and intimate area. More comfort, less friction.

🔹 Take it easy

Insert slowly, without forcing. Listen to your body and enjoy at your own pace.

🔹 Change position

Experiment with different positions to find what feels best for you. Curved dildos stimulate certain areas better.

🔹 As a duo? Communicate

Together, talk! Rhythm, depth, sensations... Pleasure is built together.

🔹 Wash and store after

Clean the toy again, dry it well and store it in a clean, dry place.

🎉 And now?

You're ready to explore!

Solo or duo, dare to test, adjust, and above all: listen to your desires.

A well-used sex toy is more than an object - it's an accomplice to pleasure.

🛍️ Choosing the right dildo: the essentials you need to know

Buying a dildo isn't just about shape or size: there are a few things to keep in mind to avoid unpleasant surprises.

• Where to buy it?

  Online stores are convenient, discreet, and often less expensive. Shipping is neutral, making it ideal for staying discreet.

• Brand matters! Avoid low-end models from unknown brands (poor quality, odor, lifespan, etc.). It's better to choose a reliable brand!

• Read the reviews

  Customer reviews help you get an idea of size, comfort or functions (vibrations, heat, etc.).

• How much does it cost?

  Between €20 and €40 for a basic model. For high-end models (vibrating, heating, etc.), expect to pay up to €100. Quality comes at a price!

• And after the purchase?

  Good customer service is reassuring. For example, XeoxHoney answers questions (size, lubricant, advice, etc.) discreetly.

👉 In short, take your time, do your research, and choose a model that suits you. The right dildo is a bit like a good pair of jeans: once you find one, you won't want to live without it.

FAQ: Our XEOX experts have thought of some essential questions

At what age can you start using a sex toy?

In France, the age of consent is 15. In practice, using a sex toy requires emotional maturity and informed consent from everyone. We therefore recommend waiting until you are of legal age (18) to make a responsible choice, to have access to reliable information and, if necessary, to the advice of a healthcare professional.

How loud is a vibrating dildo?

Vibrating dildos typically make 30-50 dB (like a whisper). Below 40 dB, it's discreet even in shared accommodations.

How to travel with your sex toy?

To travel with a sex toy, pack it in an opaque, logo-free bag, ideally as carry-on luggage (often permitted, but check local regulations). If checked, remain calm: it's an intimate object, like a toothbrush. Also, remember to bring a small cleanser or wipes for hygiene on the go.

Are there any vegan or eco-friendly materials?

Yes. More and more manufacturers are offering sex toys designed with an ethical approach: vegan silicone (no animal derivatives), untreated wood or natural stone, recycled or compostable packaging, vegetable-based inks, etc.

How to involve your partner in the purchase?

To involve your partner in the purchase of a sex toy, focus on a relaxed discussion during a moment of closeness (bath, cuddle, etc.), explore online stores together, or surprise them with a gift box to discover together. You can also blind test several models to discover your preferences without pressure. In short, turn the purchase into a game and a moment of sharing!

💡 Last tips before you start

Finding the right dildo isn't a race to size or technology. It's more about desire, comfort, and pleasure. Realistic or designer? Simple or vibrating? Soft silicone or chic glass? There's no right or wrong answer—just the one that's right for you.

Today, more than half of French people have already used a sex toy. It's no longer a taboo subject: it's a real plus for intimate life, alone or as a couple. By exploring this guide, you now have all the keys to making an informed and responsible choice.

A well-chosen and well-maintained dildo is like a good pair of shoes: it's unnoticeable, but it makes all the difference. Clean it, lubricate if necessary, and above all... have fun. Pleasure is something you cultivate—sometimes with a little silicone, sometimes just with curiosity.

So, ready to take the plunge? Your body (and maybe your partner) will thank you.